guilt

I have a friend, and whenever they are exposed of doing something wrong, they immediately have an excuse. It took me some time to notice their behavior, their pattern. I’m not saying it’s sometimes, but it is all the time! I haven’t quite discovered their need to defend themselves, as I didn’t study psychology in depth, but I know there is something deep inside of them that projects this behavior, this need to defend themselves, to blame another or situation.

I, on the other hand, sometimes say, “I’m sorry” before my offense has even registered with an individual. The Holy Spirit brings conviction quickly to me, and I feel the need to ask God for forgiveness, soon! It is freeing to be able to say, “Guilty, as charged,” and to then take care of it.

One of the best things that came about from the crucifixion of Jesus Christ was that the veil in the temple was ripped from top to bottom. What once separated us from going to God directly is gone because Jesus was a pure sacrifice for our sins.

Walking around with sin still attached to us can weigh us down and even bring depression. Charles Oswald put it like this:

“Whenever the Spirit of God detects something wrong, he doesn’t ask you to make it right; he asks you to accept the light so he can make it right. A child of the light confesses instantly and stands naked before God. A child of darkness is defensive and says, “Oh, I can explain that away.” When the light breaks and you feel convicted of having done wrong, be a child of the light. Confess, and God will deal with it. If you try to excuse or vindicate yourself, you will prove yourself a child of darkness.”

Some people are so perfect in their own minds that they will even try to stand before God and blame others for how they lived their lives. Spoiler alert: It won’t work! I tell my friend, “It’s okay to make mistakes. Notice I didn’t say, “Do wrong.” Then I tell them, “Just admit it, apologize, and ask God to forgive you, and then move on. No one will think badly of you. And if they do, then they have a problem.” Live in the light of forgiveness.

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, ²because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. Rom. 8:1-2 (NIV)

One thing that gets me upset faster than most is encountering someone with a self-righteous attitude. You’ve met them too I’m sure somewhere in life. It doesn’t take long to discover them. As soon as they tell you their life story, or if they hit your car and jump out and say it was your fault even though it wasn’t.

Well, I had another run in this past week with such a person. I have known them for a few months now and have heard how their current life issues are a result of everyone else. Sure, other’s actions do affect us, I get that, but at the same time we have to take responsibility for our part, and for our decisions.

After the person blamed me for their current displeasure I will be honest and say, I got mad! Very mad, and I made enough noise to let them know of my displeasure. I’m trying to learn how to respond to everyone and in every situation with one or more of the fruit of the Spirit, but I failed that day. I didn’t say a word, but they knew I didn’t like it. I decided the best thing to do was to remove myself from their presence. Being honest, I was concerned I would say something that they would use against me in the future.

But the whole time I was stewing I kept thinking this:

“When you stand before God, are you going to try to blame someone else for not accepting Jesus?”

These self-righteous individuals may think they are getting by with it here on earth, but in heaven I’m confident it will be a different situation. I’ve often wondered if their attitude makes them feel better about themselves. I mean what’s so bad about being wrong? Apologize and then move on. We are human after all, and in heaven, if you have accepted Jesus Christ then your wrong doing have been forgiven.

I feel sorry for people like the one I encountered this past week. They are believing lies the devil puts in their mind, and those lies may, someday, determine where they spend eternity. That’s a long time to regret your decisions! It’s possible that blaming others most of your life will make it difficult to identify as someone who does this, but perhaps there is a sliver of truth in you somewhere.

If you consider yourself self-righteous then I pray you will learn to be bold and brave and stop believing the lies, and face the reality of the truth and stop hurting others, but also stop hurting yourself.