giver

There is a ministry on TV every weekend, usually in the middle of the night. These days, I am up at that time because I can’t go back to sleep. I’m not sure why I even give the program a minute of my time because I know that no matter what they are saying when I tune in, they will eventually ask viewers to give money.

I have watched enough to know they ask for a donation of $1000. They call it a “seed offering.” The speaker assures me that God will take my offering and bless it, and I will receive many times more than what I gave. I have wondered Why does it have to be $1000? I did notice during the COVID pandemic, they only asked for $333, and then it went down to 58 dollars a month! Their plea must work because they keep doing it. I think many people are so desperate for money that they will try anything.

I have also pondered I wonder what God thinks of this so-called ministry. How will He judge them? I mean, couldn’t there be a “Dollar Tree Church?” And why is giving money to them all they ever talk about? I respect the TV ministries that never directly ask for money. They might give you an opportunity to support them, but they don’t use their expensive TV time, only asking for money.

“If God is in it, He will fund it.”
Bill Gothard

Here is what I know for sure is true: God loves a cheerful giver. (2 Corinthians 9:7) He will bless you if you give, for the right reasons, especially if you do it his way. According to Malachi 3:10. You can never outgive God. Giving is about the attitude of your heart and not about getting something back. With that said, I started tithing at the age of eleven. I give credit to God that I have never gone lacking for a job. I also gave Him praise when I was able to retire at age 55. Trust me, it wasn’t due to me being a financial expert when it came to investing.

The next time you are up in the middle of the night, and you come across a TV minister asking you to send him a $1000 seed, resist the urge. If you still want to sow a financial seed, plant it into your local church that you know is building God’s kingdom and not their own.

I heard it said the other day, “Every relationship is a transaction.” This expression caught my attention, and I have thought a lot about it. What the man who said those words went on to share was this, “In each relationship, you are either giving or taking.”

In my lifetime, I have been in a lot of different types of relationships. Working relationships, family relationships, friendships, general acquaintances, and marriage to name just a few. So what the man was saying was that in each one of those relationships, one was giving and one was taking, or at least some percentage of both.

Was I the giver? Or was I the taker? Or somehow did I manage the relationship to give and take? Did I take more than I gave? In some of those encounters with those individuals was I fair? Was I ever starving for so much that I partook first before considering the other’s needs?

I know me and in full disclosure, I have to consciously make an effort to stop talking and purposely make myself ask the other person questions about them. I like to talk, I like to tell stories, after all, I am a writer. But there are times when it is best to not say a word about me, and to listen, to inquire, and show that I care about them.

Jesus certainly was a giver in every relationship. He gave comfort, hope, and teachings on how to live an abundant life, and He still does! He also gave his life so that we may live eternally with Him in heaven.

Are you a giver, or a taker? Magkano (ma-con-o) in Tagalog (language of the Philippines) means “how much?” A phrase I learned to ask my tricycle driver when he would taxi me into town, or back home. It wasn’t long for the local ones to not answer me when I asked them, “Magkano?” I think word had gotten out that the American who had married April Joy Santiago Cruz was generous, and he would often pay more than the actual cost. This was a good reputation to have.

Be a giver. When meeting someone, ask yourself on the inside, magkano? Meaning how much is this going to cost me? You may have a lot of untold stories pent up inside, but investing in another person is always a good investment to make. They will certainly be richer for it, and in many ways, so will you! This will be a good reputation to have.